WholeandFre 5KEYSTO KNOWING YOURWORTHANDLIVING FREE BYALLIEMARIESMITH

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1 WholeandFre 5KEYSTO KNOWING YOURWORTHANDLIVING FREE BYALLIEMARIESMITH

2 , DearFriend Thanksforreadingthislitleguide.Ihope thesewordsandjournalingquestionswilbe anencouragementtoyouwhereverthis seasonoflifefindsyou.ibelievemostgirls andyoungwomenaresearchingforthe samethings.wewanttoknow andbelieve ourworth,wewanttobeapartofa greaterstory,andwewanttolivea wholeheartedlifeoffreedom andpurpose. Inthislitleguide,Isharefivetipsforliving wholeandfree.pleaseknow thata whole lifedoesn'tmeanaperfectlifeora lifewithoutstruggles.wealexperience pain,heartacheandstrugglesthissideof eternity,butthroughitalwecanstilfind meaningandexperiencejoy.mayyou pressontoseekaftergod,discoveryour truevalue,andexperiencegreater wholenessandfreedom inyourlife. WithLove, AlieMarieSmith

3 3 Introduction Doesn tliving wholeandfree sound atractivetoyou?whatdoyoupicturefor yourlifewhenyouhearthisphrase?isee myselfwearingmyfavoritesurf-suit, paddlingmynine-footlongboardthrough cooloceanwaterasdolphinsglidebymy sideandthesunbeginstoset,turningthe warm skypink.ifeelstrongandhealthy, confidentandgratefulforthelifeigetto lead.iworshipgodwitheachpaddleand waveiride,praisinghim forthebeautyof Hiscreation.Iam overwhelmedwith gratitudeforthewaygodhastakenthe ashesofmylifeandtradedthem infor somethingbeautiful.iknow livingwhole andfreeismorethananepicsurfsession, butformeitisapowerfulpictureofthelife IbelieveGoddesiresformetolead. Stoprightnow andaskyourself, What doeslivingwholeandfreelooklikefor me? Thinkaboutwhatmakesyoucomealive. Whatdoesitfeelliketobefreefrom the thingsthatareweighingyoudownthe most?maybeyouarethinking,how cani livewholeandfreewheniam engulfedby heartache,disappointmentand overwhelmingchalenges?iknow lifeisful ofhardthings,yetibelievewehavebeen designedtolivevictoriously.godhas caledustobemorethanconquerorsinal things.thatdoesn tmeanwecan tbe disappointedoreverstruggle,butthat thereisprofoundhopeforwhatweare goingthrough.yourpainisnottheendof thestory.thereisawhisperinoursouls telinguswe vebeenmadeformore.more thanshalow living.morethana self-focusedlife.morethanshame, insecurityandaddiction. Areyoureadytolivediferently?Areyou readytomakesomechangesinyourlife?i trulyhopethesefivekeyswilhelpyoulive morewhole-heartedandfree. Grabapenandajournal,headtoyour favoritecofeeshoporsacredplaceand takeyourtimeasyousoakinthesefive keys.let

4 KnowYourMaker Weachetoknow ourcoreidentity:wherewe camefrom,whyweexist,whatwe reworth,and whowerealyare.unlessyouchoosetototaly ignorehumanity smostpressingquestion,youmust eitherbelievethatweinexplicably just happened andevolvedfrom nothingorthatwe havebeenintentionalycreatedbyadivine power.ultimately,ourworldview shapesour identity-view andwhatwebelieveaboutour origindictateshow weunderstandourselvesand thepurposeofourlives. KEY01

5 5 JournalQuestions Asalitlegirl,IfeltsmaleachtimeIgazedatthe vastnessofastarynightskyorpeeredoutatan endlessstretchofoceanacrossthehorizon. ThoughIfelttiny,IalsosensedthatIwasapartof abiggerstoryandthatibelongedtosomethingor someonesomuchgreaterthanmyself.romans 1:20says, Forsincethebeginningoftheworld God sinvisiblequalities hiseternalpowerand divinenaturehavebeenclearlyseen,being understoodfrom whathasbeenmadesothat peoplearewithoutexcuse. Whilecreationgives evidenceforgod,jesusistheexact representationofgod(hebrews1:3)andmadea wayforustohavearelationshipwithhim by comingtothisearthfulygodandfulyman. Forustoknow ourtruevalue,wemustknow the Onewhomadeusandinvitesusintofriendship andrelationshipwithhim throughjesuschrist.we haveworthbecausegodhimselfisworthyand calsushisown. Seehow verymuchourfather lovesus,forhecalsushischildren,andthatis whatweare (1John3:1).You,mydear,area childofgod.knowingandbelievingboththe profounddepthofyourworthandgod svastlove 1Ourcoreidentitytacklesthe folowing:wherewecamefrom, whyweexist,whatwe reworth andwhowerealyare.what beliefshaveshapedyourcore identity? 2How doyourespondtothe majestyandbeautyofcreation? 3PonderGod sdeeplovefor youandhisdesiretohavea relationshipwithyou.whathas thisinherentlovetaughtyou aboutyourownsenseofworth? foryoucanforeverchangeyourlife andhow youseeyourself.tobealive istobelovedbygodbecauseyou havebeenmiraculouslycreated. Holdyourbeautifulheadhighforyou havebeenchosenandcaled.

6 BelieveThatYou HaveBenWonderfulyMade Youarenotanaccident.Yourlifeisnottheresult ofsomethinggonewronginthecosmos.you ve beenintentionalycreated,beautifulyfashioned bygod.youarewhoyouareforareason,notby chance.alofyourdayshavebeenplannedby Godbeforeoneofthem hascometobe. IhaveaprayerItrytosayoften.Itgoeslikethis: Lord,thankyouthatIam someoneinsteadofno one,thatiexist,thatyouhavecreatedmeand chosenmetobealiveforsuchatimeasthis.help metostewardthisonebeautiful,sometimeshard andpreciouslifewel. KEY02

7 Whenwasthelasttimeyourealy meditatedontheprofoundmiraclethat yousimplyexist?haveyoueverreflected ontherealitythatyourlifestartedasone singleinfinitesimalcel?thatyourtoes wiggle,thatyourheartbeatsonitsown andyouhavetwouniquelycoloredeyes thatalow youtoseeandtakeinthe beautyoftheworld?haveyoueverrealy consideredtheamazingtruththatnoone exactlylikeyouhaseverexistedbefore? InPsalm 139,theauthorDavidmarvelsat thewaygodhasdesignedhim andknows him: Foryoucreatedmyinmostbeing; youknitmetogetherinmymother swomb. IpraiseyoubecauseIam fearfulyand wonderfulymade; yourworksarewonderful, Iknow thatfulwel. Foryou created my inmostbeing; Youknitme together in mymother swomb. IpraiseyoubecauseIam fearfulyandwonderfuly made; Yourworksarewonderful, Iknowthatfulwel. -Psalm 139: Psalm 139:13-14 DavidpraisesGodforthemiraclethatis hislife.herecognizestheholinessofhis existenceandthanksgodforit.heknowsfulwelgodmadesomethinggoodwhenhe madehim.tobewonderfulymademeansknowinggodcreatedyouwithintention, purpose,andawe.mostofal,beingwonderfulymademeansknowinggodpersonalyand deeply,andhavinggratitudeforbeingcreatedandrespectforalhumanlife. How quickarewetodishonorgodwiththeharshwordswespeakoverourselves.how it breakshisheartwhenwedon tbelievewehavevalue.wearehispreciouscreations,unlike anyotherpersonevercreated,madewithuniquegiftsanduniquebeauty.letusdailywalk inthewonderofbeingwonderfulymade. JournalQuestions 1Whatdoesit meantoyoutobe wonderfulymade? 2Meditateonthe miracleofyourmere existence. 3How canyou thankgodforthelife Hehasgivenyou? 4Whatdoesit meantobe unique?whyisit importantthatnone ofusarethesame?

8 KnowThereIsBeauty AndPurposeInYourBrokennes IlovethesewordsbyBrennanManning:"Ina futileatempttoeraseourpast,wedeprivethe communityofourhealinggift.ifweconcealour woundsoutoffearandshame,ourinner darknesscanneitherbeiluminatednorbecome alightforothers." It softenthethingstheworldtelsusweshould hidethathavethepotentialtobeusedbygod inwaysyoucouldneverimagine. KEY03

9 WhenIwaseighteen,mylifelooked perfectontheoutside,butitquicklyfel apart.afteryearsofsecretlystruggling withlow self-worthandignoringwhati now know wasdepression,iwas hospitalizedtwoweeksaftergraduating highschoolandwantedtoendmylife.as IwasinthehospitalIthoughtmylifewas over.ineverimaginedawayout.thoughi havehadsetbackswithmentalhealth strugglessince,godhasrestoredme throughstrongfamilysupportand professionalhelp.hehastransformedmy brokennessintowholenessanduseditasa giftthathasgivenmegreatpurpose, empathyandresilience.ineverwould havestartedwonderfulymadeifihadn t struggledlikeidid.withgod,ourwounds andhang-upscanberedeemed,restored andusedforgood. Wemustbecarefulnottoletourstruggles becomeouridentity.wearenota diagnosis,astatistic,oravictim.whileour batlesmaybeapartofourstory,theyare notwhoweare.forthosewhohave surenderedtheirlivestochrist,wehave theprivilegeofbeingdaughtersofgod andaregivenabrand-new identity.in Japaneseculture,thereisatypeof JournalQuestions 1How maytherebebeautyand purposeinyourbrokenness? 2How canyousurenderthebroken partsofyourlifetochristandwhatdo youhopegodcandowiththem? 3Whatunexpectedgiftsmightcome from thehardestthingsinyourlife? poteryknownaskintsugiorkintsukuroi.itis theartofrepairingbrokenpoterywitha lacquerdustedormixedwithpowdered gold,silverorplatinum.theoncepresent cracksfrom beingshateredaremended, emphasized,andmadebeautifulwiththe lacquer.ratherthantreatingthe breakageassomethingtobedespised, Kintsugiseesitasapartofthehistoryofan object,assomethingthatmakesitmore setapartandbeautiful. Maybelikeme,youhavecomeapart,but ifyouopenyourbrokenhearttogodyou canalsobemended.incomingtogod, wearyandbroken,likeapieceofkinstugi potery,youcanbemadewholeagain. Thecracksandcrevicesofourlivesare partofourstories,buttheyaren ttheend ofourstories.theyareapartofus,but theydonotdefinewhoweare.weare definedbythelovethatmendsus,the lovethatrestoresus,thatpicksourbroken piecesupandsayswearelovelier becausewehavebeenbrokenbecause ofwhohasbeenbrokenforus.ourpoter cantakethebrokenbitsofourlivesand mendthem intosomethingfardiferent, butfarmoreresilientandbeautifulthan themoldwewanttofitinto. 9

10 KnowYourCompany CanDetermineYourDestiny Tolivefree,wemustbevigilantaboutguarding ourheartandeyes.proverbs4:23telsus, Above alelse,guardyourheart,foritisthewelspringof life. Asyoungwomen,whatdoesitmeanto guardourheart?doyoustrugglewith disorderedeatingwhileyoursocialmediafeedis filedwithtriggeringandunrealisticimagesof models?doyoufindyourselfconstantly comparingyourselftothatinstagram staror celebrity?areyoupuledintoarelationshipthatis toxic? Whoisinyourinnercircle?Dotheybringyou dramaordotheyafirm youwiththeirfriendship andbuildyouup? KEY04

11 11 JournalQuestions Wehavemorecontroloverwhatcancontrolus thanwethink.wecandecidewhotoletintoour innercircleandwhatweletoureyessee.ask yourselfwhatyouarelookingatorbeingexposed tothatisrobbingyouofjoy.pinpointwhatis causingemotional,physicalormentaldistress. OneofthemanygiftsGodgivesusisfreedom of choice.youhavethefreedom tochooseyour friends,whoyoudate,andwhatyoulookaton yourphone.yourhearthasbeendesignedtobe guarded,notgivenawayfreelytopeopleor thingsthatwilmishandleit.boundariesleadto freedom.rememberthatyouaremadeformore thanthelifeourmediaandcultureisselingto you. Ibelieveoneoftheworstthingsforyoungwomen isthebeliefthatwemustalwaysbeina relationship,thatwemustjumpfrom one relationshiptothenext.a long,uninterupted periodofsinglenessisgoodforthesoul.youare intheprocessofbecoming.godwantstodoa goodworkinyouandibelieveoneofthemost potentialydamagingthingsyoucandotohinder thatgoodworkistoconstantlybedefinedor consumedbyarelationship.iencourageyouto takeatleastonelongseasontofocusonyourself andyourrelationshipwithjesus.godwantsto giveyouthegiftofsecurityashisdaughterapart from anyperson.iam sogratefulmyfreshman boyfriendbrokeupwithmewheniwasfourteen andthatiwassingleuntilthedayimetmy husband.iseemytimeofsinglenessasatreasure thatprofoundlyshapedmeandmyrelationship 1Doyoufeelthatthe relationshipspresentinyourlife bringyoujoy,support,andlove? 2Whatqualitiesdefinea meaningfulrelationshipforyou personaly? 3Whichrelationshipscause drama,painorheartacheinyour life?how canyoucreate boundariesinthese relationships? 4Whatareyoualowing yourselftolookatthatmaybe robbingyouofjoyandpeace? withgod.don tbeafraidtobe diferentthanyourtribeofgirlfriends andrememberthatsingleness, thoughhardattimes,canbring security,protection,andpeaceof mind. Soguardyourheart,protectwhat youreyesseeandbecarefulofthe companyyouinviteintoyourlife.as yougrow inanunderstandingofhow valuableyouareandmakedecisions accordingly,doingthesethreethings wilhelpyoulivewholeandfree.

12 KnowYou veben MadeForMore Doyoueverfeellikeyoujustdon tbelongorthat you renotwhereyou resupposedtobe?icanbe sitinginmybeautifulydecoratedhome,inmy comfiestclothesdrinkingmymorningcofeeand stilfeellikei m notwherei vebeenmadetobe.i canstilfeellikeiachetobesomewhereelse, somewhereevenbeter.c.s.lewissaid, Thefact thatourheartyearnsforsomethingearthcan t supplyisproofthatheavenmustbeourhome. KEY05

13 Godhasseteternityinthehumanheart (Ecclesiastes3:11).Evenonourbestdays, weknow inthecoreofourbeingthereis somethingmore.somethingmoreperfect andbeautifulandwhole.heaven,for thosewhobelieveinchristandinvitehim toreignintheirhearts,isourforeverhome. Ultimately,wehavenotbeenmadeforthis beautiful,butbrokenandfalenworld.we havenotbeenmadetoliveonourphones withhoursofendlessscrolingorforfriend dramathatsucksthelifeoutofus.we havenotbeenmadetomakeselfdestructivedecisionsthatcauseuspain andhurt.ilness,tragedy,injustice,abuse thesecanberealitiesinourworld,butwith Christtheyarenottheendofthestory. THEREISA GLORIOUSADVENTURE,A PASSIONATEPURPOSEAWAITING THOSEWHO MAKETHEUNPOPULAR DECISION TO LIVEBEYOND THEMSELVES. Tolivefree,wemustnotacknowledgethat thisworldisnotourhome,butalso understandthatwehavebeenmadeto liveagreaterstory.we vebeendesigned toliveanoutward-focusedlifeofloveand service.whenistruggledthemost,iwas themostinward-focused.ithoughtifi couldjustfocusonmyself,fixmyself,and makemyselfmoreperfectbylosingjustten morepounds,iwouldbehappier.iwasso wrong. 13 Ourcultureiscrazyself-obsessed! Everyoneisbusytryingtobefolow-worthy onsocialmedia,orposingforpicturesand pickingoutfiltersasifthat sthemagic tickettohappinessandbliss.buttrue freedom liesinalifethatisoutwardfocusedonlovingandservingotherswel. Thehealthiestandhappiestgirlsaren t thosewiththousandsofonlinefolowers, butthosewithheartsthataresetoutward whoarelivinglivesbiggerthan themselves.theyarethegirlsbefriending thatonelonely,outcastandbuliedgirlat school.theyaretheoneschoosingto spendtheirspringbreaksdoingmission tripsratherthanbingeingonalcoholor workingontheirtans.thehappiestgirls know theyhavebeenmadeformorethan ashalow,inward-focused,andperfect life.thesegirlshavetastedthelifeof adventure,purposeandjoygodcalsus toandtheyknow deepintheirsoulsthat whattheworldoferswilnotsatisfy.these girlswithdeepsoulsaretheonesiwantto dolifewith. Thereisagloriousadventure,apassionate purposeawaitingthosewhomakethe unpopulardecisiontolivebeyond themselves.asweloseourselvesin somethinggreaterthanus,wefindthejoy andpurposewewerecreatedfor.we havebeenhard-wiredtocomealivewhen wegiveourselvestosomethingthat maters somethingbiggerthan ourselves. JournalQuestions 1Doyoueverfindyourself achingforheavenandifso, whatdoesthissayaboutthe wayyou vebeenmade? 2Whatdoesitmeanto youtoliveanoutwardfocusedlife? 3How canyoustep outsideyourselfandbeter loveandservethoseinyour sphereofinfluence?

14 14 AboutUs WonderfulyMadeisaChristian-basednonprofit organizationdedicatedtohelpingteengirlsand youngwomenknow theirvalue,whileequipping them tolivespiritualyandemotionalyhealthy lives. Weshareamessageofhopeandworthwith youngwomenthroughourconferences,films, podcast,resourcesandonlinecommunity.we encourageyoungwomentolivewholeandfree andtoknow theyhaveagreaterpurposethan themediaandourculturetelsthem theyhave. Ifyouareateengirloryoungwomanormom or mentorweinviteyoutoatendoneofour conferencesandcheckoutourfreeresourcesat wonderfulymade.org. AlieMarieSmithlives innorthcounty SantaBarbarawith herhusbandpaul andtheirgolden RetrieverGidget.They lovetosurfandadventureupand downcalifornia sgoldencoast.sheis thefounderandexecutivedirectorof WonderfulyMade,anon-profitfor teengirlsandyoungwomendesigned toequipandencouragethem toknow theirgod-givenvalueandlivewhole andfree.whenshe snotplanning youngwomen sconferences,hostinga podcastordreamingupnew dreams, you llikelyfindherplayingwitha camera,workingoutorshopping.you canconnectwithalieviaherwebsite ataliemariesmith.com. GetEncouragement SubscribetoourpodcastavailableonItunes,wonderfulymade.org,

15 15 FATHER SLOVELETTER MyChild, Youmaynotknow me,butiknow everythingaboutyou.psalm 139:1 Iknow whenyousitdownandwhenyouriseup.psalm 139:2 Iam familiarwithalyourways.psalm 139:3 Eventheveryhairsonyourheadarenumbered.Mathew 10:29-31 Foryouweremadeinmyimage.Genesis1:27 Inmeyouliveandmoveandhaveyourbeing.Acts17:28 Foryouaremyofspring.Acts17:28 Iknew youevenbeforeyouwereconceived.jeremiah1:4-5 IchoseyouwhenIplannedcreation.Ephesians1:11-12 Youwerenotamistake,foralyourdaysarewriteninmybook.Psalm 139:15-16 Ideterminedtheexacttimeofyourbirthandwhereyouwouldlive.Acts17:26 Youarefearfulyandwonderfulymade.Psalm 139:14 Iknityoutogetherinyourmother'swomb.Psalm 139:13 Andbroughtyouforthonthedayyouwereborn.Psalm 71:6 Ihavebeenmisrepresentedbythosewhodon'tknow me.john8:41-44 Iam notdistantandangry,butam thecompleteexpressionoflove.1john4:16 Anditismydesiretolavishmyloveonyou.1John3:1 SimplybecauseyouaremychildandIam yourfather.1john3:1 Ioferyoumorethanyourearthlyfatherevercould.Mathew 7:11 ForIam theperfectfather.mathew 5:48 Everygoodgiftthatyoureceivecomesfrom myhand.james1:17 ForIam yourproviderandimeetalyourneeds.mathew 6:31-33 Myplanforyourfuturehasalwaysbeenfiledwithhope.Jeremiah29:11 BecauseIloveyouwithaneverlastinglove.Jeremiah31:3 Mythoughtstowardyouarecountlessasthesandontheseashore.Psalm 139:17-18 AndIrejoiceoveryouwithsinging.Zephaniah3:17 Iwilneverstopdoinggoodtoyou.Jeremiah32:40 Foryouaremytreasuredpossession.Exodus19:5

16 16 Idesiretoestablishyouwithalmyheartandalmysoul.Jeremiah32:41 AndIwanttoshow yougreatandmarvelousthings.jeremiah33:3 Ifyouseekmewithalyourheart,youwilfindme.Deuteronomy4:29 DelightinmeandIwilgiveyouthedesiresofyourheart.Psalm 37:4 ForitisIwhogaveyouthosedesires.Philippians2:13 Iam abletodomoreforyouthanyoucouldpossiblyimagine.ephesians3:20 ForIam yourgreatestencourager.2thessalonians2:16-17 Iam alsothefatherwhocomfortsyouinalyourtroubles.2corinthians1:3-4 Whenyouarebrokenhearted,Iam closetoyou.psalm 34:18 Asashepherdcariesalamb,Ihavecariedyouclosetomyheart.Isaiah40:11 OnedayIwilwipeawayeverytearfrom youreyes.revelation21:3-4 AndI'ltakeawayalthepainyouhavesuferedonthisearth.Revelation21:3-4 Iam yourfather,andiloveyouevenasilovemyson,jesus.john17:23 ForinJesus,myloveforyouisrevealed.John17:26 Heistheexactrepresentationofmybeing.Hebrews1:3 HecametodemonstratethatIam foryou,notagainstyou.romans8:31 AndtotelyouthatIam notcountingyoursins.2corinthians5:18-19 JesusdiedsothatyouandIcouldbereconciled.2Corinthians5:18-19 Hisdeathwastheultimateexpressionofmyloveforyou.1John4:10 IgaveupeverythingIlovedthatImightgainyourlove.Romans8:31-32 IfyoureceivethegiftofmysonJesus,youreceiveme.1John2:23 Andnothingwileverseparateyoufrom myloveagain.romans8:38-39 ComehomeandI'lthrow thebiggestpartyheavenhaseverseen.luke15:7 IhavealwaysbeenFather,andwilalwaysbeFather.Ephesians3:14-15 Myquestionis Wilyoubemychild?John1:12-13 Iam waitingforyou.luke15:11-32 Love, YourDad. AlmightyGod

17 17 APrayer InviteGodIntoYourLife IfwhatyoureadinthisguideandTheFather'sLoveLeterhasimpactedyou,weinviteyou totakethistimetopraytogodandprofessyourfaithinchristandyourdesiretolivefor him.thereisnoexactprayerformula-it'snotthewordsthatsaveyoubutyourfaith. DearGod, Ibelievethatyouloveme.Iknow thaticannotsave myself.ineedyouinmylife.iadmitthatifalshortof yourgloryandyourperfectstandardandam guiltyof sin.iaskthatyouforgivemeandrenew myheartand lifewithyourpresence.jesus,ibelieveyouarewho yousayyouare,thatyouconquereddeathandthat nothingwileverseparatemefrom yourlove.iam placingmytrustinyoualone.igiveyoumywholelife andiacceptyourgiftofeternallife.thankyoufor Ifyouhaveprayedthisforthefirsttime,weencourageyoutotelsomeoneandfeelfree 2019WonderfulyMade